For some time my 2-year-old son has been very angry, he doesn't want to dress, he doesn't listen, he forces everything by screaming. There were also problems with sleeping at night that had not been there before. Now my son only sleeps a few hours. About 1-3 am he wakes up screaming, throws around the crib, stomps his feet, sometimes he says something indistinctly, sometimes he calls 'mama'. It's hard to calm him down. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm a nervous and explosive person. he is a son, he doesn't work and I think that maybe it's my fault, because I often yell at him (since he became so unruly). Should I do some research for him or myself?
It is definitely worth getting tested. Nervousness may result from the life situation and then it is worth using sedatives and contacting a psychologist, but it may also have other causes (e.g. hormonal disorders such as hyperthyroidism) that need to be treated. The child is calm when the mother is calm. It takes your emotional states and reacts to your tensions with anxiety and crying. Try not to scream or show your nervousness. Take the rush and introduce a calm, friendly and cheerful atmosphere. Remember that your child is still very young, going through various stages of development, among which he has the right to be alive and unruly, to refuse once an order, and in a moment to politely listen to his mother. When we look at children with understanding and calmness, joke, reward behaviors in line with our expectations, hug and praise, we know that each new period of child's frustrating experiments will one day be successful. Because the child gets to know the world through experiments. By the way, he tests our patience and always wants to be the center of attention. My son knows that when you are busy with something else, and he spills the juice, for example, your attention will immediately focus on him. Therefore, she deliberately drops the cup. I don't know if this is about spilling, but you are definitely dealing with this type of behavior. This is a signal that you are devoting too little time to your child. Nights will be quiet when there is a constant evening ritual before putting the son to bed. When the child, after washing and having dinner, silences himself with a fairy tale, music, cuddles into a soft toy and falls asleep knowing that you are nearby, it is safe, and the night is very pleasant. For that to be the case, it takes a little effort on your part.Read, for example on the Internet, about falling asleep. To help the boy soothe his nerves, serve a mildly calming lemon balm tea before evening (there are different flavors). If you follow all the advice and still do not notice any improvement within a month, have your child examined and consult the pediatrician.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Barbara Śreniowska-SzafranEducator with many years of experience.
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