Back in the day, when I didn't have a computer (it was still elementary school), I was an exemplary student. I was able to study without any problems. Since buying a computer, however, I started to learn less and less. I can't help but sit in front of the computer. This is stronger than me. What to do? Can it be cured without visiting a psychologist, etc.? I would like to add that my father travels abroad for work, so I rarely see him.
Since you observe such effects of using the computer, you can see that you do not use it to gain knowledge - which is a pity. The computer and the Internet offer great opportunities in this area. However, I understand that your computer world is pleasant and takes up your study time. You are afraid that you are permanently addicted. But that's not true. You just lack the willpower to put your life in order. You don't need a psychologist here. He will not lock your computer. Since you realize that you are doing wrong, you have to put some simple limits on yourself. Instead of being hysterical and complaining, think: you're a gifted guy, so you don't take too long to learn. You have to save this time! Embrace the principle of "Duties First, Pleasures Later." Tell yourself that you are not allowed to sit down to play the computer games until you have finished your homework. And stick to this undoubtedly. You can also define the times when you are allowed to play with the computer (eg from 7.00 pm to 9.00 pm. Control the time by setting the alarm clock.). At other times, the computer has the right to be used for learning and pursuing interests. Assume that when you have not prepared for the next day for school to pound, burn, you MUST NOT sit down to play at the hours you set. Another whip you have to put on yourself is the total number of hours you use the computer. You can't spend your life with the computer. In order not to become a cripple, you must move (also in the open air), interact with friends, eat, help at home, play sports, go to the cinema, etc. Set the time that you can spend during the day on all computer sitting ( e.g. 4 hours a day). If you follow the rules you set yourself, you will feel better. The fear of addiction and bad grades at school will disappear, there will be pride and satisfaction that you manage your life wisely, that you fulfill your obligations and do notyou waste your abilities, you will notice and start to appreciate other interesting activities that are worth spending your time on, such as chatting with friends or playing football. You know, Adrian, there is no other method for our functioning. We are thinking beings and each of us tries to live as he chooses. This applies not only to science and computers. For example, consider why you don't steal, even when the opportunity presents itself? The answer is simple: you know stealing is bad, and decent people don't. This knowledge is enough to keep you from stealing. Do the same with your time - do not steal it from your own abilities and talents that need to be developed, among others by science. Playing beyond measure always comes at the expense of something else. The point is not to lose control over it and not to lose other very important matters. The ability to control yourself shows maturity. And you are no longer a tiny child who only does what he enjoys. Think through all your comments and suggestions, get organized, and I'm sure you'll soon be pleased with yourself and be able to show off your achievements to your dad.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Barbara Śreniowska-SzafranEducator with many years of experience.
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