Hello. I am in the 3rd grade of middle school. and i am 15 years old. Let me start with the fact that from the beginning of the school year I am very sleepy and I do not feel like anything. I have my passion, but lately I am not attracted to it. When I try to learn for something, it seems to me that there is so much of it and it is impossible to learn it all. Often, when I am learning, I fall asleep next to my notebook. I'm not prepared for school, I don't feel like studying. I am an average / good student, I learn differently, average about 3.7. My mother began to wonder where I would go with the threesome, they would not accept me anywhere and it would remain to dig holes. I am also wondering about it. I also feel a sense of lack of time, that I am still lacking it. I walk sad and sleepy all the time, I don't see the meaning of life. Could you describe what's going on? Is it normal at this age? How to fix it? I got interested in this topic and I saw on many other websites of this type that many people of my age also have a problem with it. Please do not send me to the doctor immediately, but try to describe this problem as broadly as possible.
It's good that you are trying to control the situation, understand it and find a way to get out of the hole. You write consciously about your conditions, which - as I understand it - worry and tire you. In my opinion, you are in the early stages of adolescent depression. It is indicated by drowsiness, lack of strength, sadness that accompanies you all the time, loss of interest in previous passions and pastimes, a sense of the lack of meaning in life. Many people in their physical and mental adolescence experience such problems. It is related to age (usually around 19), events, thoughts and personality type. Shocking events and strong negative experiences (e.g. death or illness of loved ones, divorce of parents, emotional disappointment, disappointment with important values, failures, etc.) can strengthen the depressive reaction. After bad experiences and strong negative experiences, it is easier to come to conclusions such as: "why do all this, we will die anyway", "the world is bad and I will not fix it", "nobody loves me", "I am good for nothing ”Etc. I don't know if something very dark has happened in your life recently. Regardless, you are still subject to the laws of an age where depression is not uncommon. The world is getting more and more stressful and we have to deal with it somehowadvise. Defense mechanisms and ways to combat tensions are within us. Whoever does not look for them gets needlessly into ever greater torment and trouble. Often, by the way, he makes his loved ones suffer. That is why you must not give up, you have to fight because life awaits. Before I tell you how to do this, you need to know that our emotional and mental states have their source in the brain - they arise "in the head" and the brain controls them. In a depressive situation that you don't consciously oppose, brain receptors begin to send signals to you, producing the effects you are just seeing. This is a disorder that must not be ignored as it prevents normal functioning and development. If you give up, you will quickly lose control and the receptors will rule you against your will. The disorder will bloom, become permanent and turn into a serious, dangerous disease that is persistent in treatment. In addition to impotence and "black thoughts", concentration disorders and various body ailments (such as headaches, abdominal pain, nausea, loss of appetite, loss of body immunity, shortness of breath, nervous tension, and even convulsions) may appear. There are also often paralyzing fears of people, events and the world. Such conditions require pharmacological treatment in which drugs, not you, will steer the brain's "decisions". I don't think anyone can like such a variant. How to prevent it? 1) Get a grip on your own and start to decide for yourself. In other words, turn on positive thinking ('it's worth it', 'I would like', 'I care', 'I'm curious', 'I can' etc.) and force yourself to be active. You may have some difficulties with this, so I would advise you to at the same time 2) Get in touch with a psychotherapist who will support you in your efforts in a professional way. Ad. 1. Look, until the summer holidays you were a joyful, active person who enjoyed a lot of things, was curious about the world, believed in his abilities, was ambitious, appreciated the acceptance of friends, etc. Suddenly, everything ceased to be important and up-to-date and the person withdrew from life. Think, is there any logic in it? It would be if you, for example, came to the conclusion that you are not satisfied with that (pre-vacation) and look for other ways to spend your life (new friends, activities, values). But you don't. You have stopped, hid, and live an amoeba life. You don't like it at all, but you can't make any move. Powerlessness is weakness. You have to say to yourself, "It's okay, I'm still Adam, who can do anything if he wants to. The more difficulties I overcome, the more satisfaction I will have. " You tell me what you are not doing, you justify it with the lack of strength, joy of existence and willingness. At the same time, you declare that this situation worries everyone, including yourself.So do something - get active. Take some vitamin supplement and say to yourself, “Get moving! The fact that you don't feel like it is no obstacle. " Do not meditate on your state of mind (when the topic returns, set it aside immediately). Get it into your head that there are so many interesting, beautiful, happy and important things that you need to get involved in, because they are missing you unnecessarily. Relax and distance yourself from everyday matters. Laughter and humor are the best doctors. Read happy books. Get out of the house and look for cheerful company. It is necessary to systematically take up sport (even running or rollerblading, preferably in a good company). Make a plan for the next day and make sure you do it. Make your homework - after all, what trouble is it? Then you are not a fool. Do something crazy, be amazed by something, be the best at something - you can afford it. Ad. 2. In Lodz, I would advise you to seek the help of a psychologist at the Youth Mental He alth Clinic of the Medical University at ul. Czechosłowacka (tel. Poradnia - 42/675 72 19, headquarters - 42/675 70 00. Call there (or ask your mother), say that the matter is urgent and make an appointment. I recommend UM, because it has effective psychological therapy. I work remotely, I have too little information about you, so it is difficult for me to guide you step by step through the maze of problems you come across. A psychologist is able to help you on one condition: You must tell the truth and be willing to work with him.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Barbara Śreniowska-SzafranEducator with many years of experience.
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