I have been with my boyfriend for six months and we love each other very much. We even want to live together, but my mother still has a "but". I don't know why this is so, maybe it's my fault …
Hello! I don't think your mom will be angry with you. Why is this so? - Think: you are 17 years old. You still go to school. We live in a country where girls of this age live with their parents and study. Your mum wishes you well and she cares about your happy future. To become independent and get a job, you need to graduate from school, and preferably also from university. The idea of living together, and therefore creating a family (even informal) is too early. You don't earn money, you don't have your own means of subsistence. I don't know if your boyfriend has an income of his own. Even if this is the case, no one is sure how long your relationship will last and whether the boy will want to share everything with you. It is different, you know each other briefly. Now my mother deals with many household matters. When you move out, you will have to do everything yourself: wash, cook, clean, iron, etc. Will you find time to learn? Did you know that many relationships fall apart just after living under the same roof? People who love each other during walks, trips together and playing together, are not stuck with each other around the clock, do not have common everyday problems, behave completely different than those who have a home and family. There are known divorces due to dirty socks lying on the table, due to shifting household duties to one person, etc. etc. I will tell you in secret that the engagement period is the most beautiful time in your life. It is not worth getting rid of it too easily. You write that mom does not accept your boyfriend. In other words, she doesn't like him for some reason. If you think the boy is impeccable, mom's reserve may be because she is concerned about your future. He doesn't know this man. He does not know if he is responsible and will look after you and respect you. You are young and life is ahead of you. You will still have a lot of time. For the time being, I would suggest that your boyfriend try to win over his mother's favors. It's always nicer when everyone likes, understands, and helps each other, instead of frowning. Think about it and don't believe the colorful youth magazines that describe the happiness of teenagers getting married. Believe me, this happiness almost never lasts long. To my own,a stable family must grow up. And then it doesn't always work, because it's not easy. Regards. B.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Barbara Śreniowska-SzafranEducator with many years of experience.
More advice from this expert
13 year old draws penises [Expert's tip]2-year-old still wakes up at night [Expert's tip]Aggression in a teenager [Expert's advice]The Rebellion of the Fourteen-Year-Old [Expert's Advice]Daughter (2 years and 3 months) wakes up at night and does not sleep [Expert advice]A two-year-old who is awake [Expert's tip]How to be a stepfather when the father rebels the child against you [Expert Advice]How to teach a 10 year old to be okay? [Expert advice]How to fight a computer addiction? [Expert advice]How to encourage a child to learn? [Expert advice]How to become a kindergarten teacher? [Expert advice]When the Child Beats [Expert Advice]Lies and threats from the child [Expert advice]Husband on a business trip [Expert's advice]Studying at night [Expert's tip]I can't cope with my 2-year-old son [Expert's tip]Reluctance to read [Expert Advice]Naughty preschooler [Expert's tip]Shyness, reticence and shyness. [Expert advice]Night Hysteria [Expert Advice]Morning abdominal pain [Expert advice]Problems with the adolescent son [Expert's tip]Problems with sleepiness, concentration, learning [Expert advice]Baby's Tearfulness [Expert's Advice]Conversation with a 12-year-old, learning problems [Expert's advice]Six-year-old victim syndrome? [Expert advice]Bullying [Expert Advice]Jealousy [Expert Advice]Rebellious Teen [Expert Advice]Misbehavior and Reluctance to Learn [Expert Advice]