I have been married for 3 years. It seemed to be the one chosen one, and everything was so nice at the beginning. However, time has shown its effect and I don't know what to do next. I don't feel happy in this relationship, I have had enough sometimes and want to go out and not come back. I don't want to be someone by force. I have met someone and I feel loved. Can a married woman fall in love? Is it wrong and is it so in relationships that after a while it turns out that it doesn't fit together? Because I think that we don't fit, it's like two different worlds … It's a pity that I only noticed it now.
Hello! Everyone has the right to fall in love and everyone has the right to strive for their own happiness, although not everyone has the same consequences in life. Surely dealing with the kind of love you are dealing with will be more difficult than if you would fall in love when single. What to do? Above all, stay calm and cautious for now. Love is only apparently "blind". We often just want it to be like that. For now, fight for your marriage - after all, you decided on it for some reason. You probably thought you were in love then. It's certain that living together changes a lot, but you can't override your own decisions so quickly. Maybe something else can be done? Many couples go through crises after a few years of marriage, but they are resolved and passed through them. But is it worth it in your case? I don't know exactly that, but maybe it will give you the satisfaction that you did everything possible? Don't jump like a moth from one crush to another. Don't run away just because there are difficulties, because they are present in every relationship and you have to deal with them, not react with a change of partner.
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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