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My 8-year-old son has recently come back from school with comments that he and his classmates were touching their sensitive places. Recently, I noticed that I am more and more interested in the attributes of femininity. It happened that he was spying on me in the bathroom. Is this behavior normal? How to react so as not to hurt him?
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Your child entered the age of curiosity with a flourish in terms of physiology, corporeality, and the biological side of life. Perhaps he has already satisfied his curiosity and there will be no more such adventures (with touching and examining). But maybe he needs even more news and will be experimenting further. What you should convey to him is the joy (yes!) That he told you about it all. It means that he is not ashamed of you and that he has confidence in you. You shouldn't destroy it with your misbehavior such as hysterics, punishing, complaining. Better to know the worst but to know than to live blissfully ignorant. So keep calm even when it gurgles inside. The second thing you need to talk to him about is paying attention to the fact that you should always avoid violence, force no one to play such games or be forced yourself. He has to know the difference - he has to be able to keep his privacy. Tell him about this almost and pay attention to the fact that the body is divided into certain spheres that we should keep only for ourselves. Don't be overbearing with your information, just answer the questions. Say that he can ask you always and about everything (if you feel able to answer!) And you will try to answer according to your knowledge. (plain and clear, no details that the child did not ask). If you have any more problems, read about the psychosexual development of children, maybe that will explain more. However, I think there is nothing to worry about for now.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with a well-knownaround the world, Professor Emma Gonikman.
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