I wanted to ask what is wrong with me? Others say that I don't think and that everyone has to tell me what to do. Plus, I'm too slow. Even though I try my best, nobody likes me anyway. No matter what I do or say - it's always wrong. What should I do to make it better? How can I convince others that I am not evil and can do many things - if given a chance?
Hello! I don't know what exactly is "wrong with you". I can only make guesses based on the few sentences you wrote. Maybe the problem is that you are trying too hard? Maybe you want to please others too much without thinking about yourself? You don't know what you like, what interests you, what you care about. You also don't have the courage to fight for it. Maybe you want to reconcile "fire with water" and please everyone, and you just can't.
Perhaps this desperate desire for acceptance is felt and used against you by people. If they see how much you care about them, they feel that they are allowed to do anything and you will not react anyway. This "victim" attitude triggers the most unpleasant instincts in others and prompts them to show you that you are inferior to them.
Therefore, show others what you really are, but without such fear. There will always be someone who likes you, and there will always be someone who doesn't like you. Acceptance is never complete, nor is it possible for everyone around you to accept you. It takes courage to come to terms with it, but it is very worth doing, because then you feel yourself. With himself as he is.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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