I'm 25 years old. I was about to get married, but what was closer to the wedding, I began to wonder if I would grow up to be a wife and mother. And I found that absolutely not. And I finished everything! Today I have no desire to live, nothing makes me happy, I have no job, I have no contact with a wonderful man whom I was supposed to marry. He had brought so much good to our relationship and I couldn't respect it. I don't know where I lost my way in life … I don't care whether I'm in this world or not. I see no sense at all, I do everything out of force. I've always been a smiling, energetic girl. Now I am wondering if I can love … I should be glad that I am he althy, I have food, I have money … but I really do not enjoy anything. I fell down and can't get out of it. I do not know if I am completely he althy. Maybe I have something with my head? I have friends around, but no one can help me.
Well … You've had a serious existential crisis. You wonder about yourself, your place, your future. It is often a natural time in life. You are sad and discouraged. You have a confusion in your head, because the long-planned undertakings did not come to fruition (at your will). Did you do right? Can't you love? Is there something wrong with you? This is important - even the basic questions for you now. Is it good - it remains to be seen. If you had any doubts and they were so strong that you gave up the planned wedding, you probably made the right decision. Apparently it wasn't the moment or the man. It is not enough for a guy to be "good" and "nice" to love him immediately and enter into a relationship for life. Many marriages are unsatisfactory because people feared that they would no longer find anyone to love and be truly loved. Don't worry about doubts. You did what you did, and that's the way it is. The decision has been made and now life must be reorganized. Each decision has different consequences - you have to take that into account. Slowly, day by day, try to see life more brightly - it is not a matter of one moment for everything to change. Search for a job, find a job, meet new people. Don't be too harsh and cruel to yourself. Look at yourself with the kind eye and try to find as many positive aspects as possible about your current situation. It will be better - you will see.
Remember thatour expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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