My 4-year-old son has been loving to play with his dad's or grandpa's bare belly for some time. He pulls up his T-shirt and is put on his stomach or on his feet. When asked why he answers - because they are pretty. I don't want to play with me or my grandma this way. In men without clothes, it draws attention to the feet and stomach. Should such behavior in a boy worry us? We do not know whether to allow him to play these games and how to react?
Four-year-olds are an inexhaustible source of "strange" ideas. They are like that and that's it. Fall and colder days will come and my son will definitely want to show his naked belly. He doesn't remember much from last summer and what he sees now is quite new to him. Shave men, undress ladies, body on top … it's very intriguing and interesting, you have to explore and have fun.
Men may be interested in my son because he is at the age when he begins to identify with his gender very strongly. Begins to feel the difference between what is masculine ("this will be") and what is completely separate or feminine. Perhaps these areas of their bodies aroused his special interest because they are much larger than what he has and it makes a certain impression with him. He likes them (and very well!) And somehow they awe him.
Please don't worry about it yet - as long as Papa and Grandpa have patience. I can assure you that in a few weeks it will be over (and maybe something completely different will appear). However, if it does not pass, it will be a good idea to consult a child psychologist. However, I hope it won't be necessary.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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