I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, we have lived together for 2.5 years. I am 21 years old, he is 26. I finished my 2nd year of Polytechnic, he only finished elementary school… and this is where my problem lies. At the beginning, it didn't bother me, but now I feel ashamed of it, for example, in front of my friends I always lie that he has finished vocational training, I would like him to finish school and have any education. I'm fed up with my family complaining that I can afford someone better. He is intelligent, runs his own company, knows many things, but I can't convince him that it is worth graduating from school. I love him very much, but I fear for the future.
I think the answer is already in your question. I have the impression that you are primarily concerned with self-confidence. When it comes to your friends and family, it is difficult for you to stand firmly on the side of your choice. You chose such a boy, you live with him and you can listen to other opinions, but you don't have to agree with them. On the other hand, in your relationship with your boyfriend, you probably compare your system of values and interests with his way of life and choices, and there is again uncertainty. I advise you not to try to change your boyfriend and with the help of lies try to influence the knowledge of your friends about your boyfriend. I think it will be better to focus on yourself, try to stand more on your side, on the side of your choices and interests.
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Józef SawickiA specialist in individual therapies with many years of psychotherapeutic experience. In clinical work, she deals with psychotic patients. He is interested in the philosophy of the East. More at www.firma-jaz.pl.
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