When I met my partner, we had sex a lot and it was great. After a while, he lost interest in me completely. Overall, we're doing great. we don't argue and we have a lot of fun, but the lack of sex is starting to bother me, a lot. I talked to him about it a million times, he says that he loves me and that I am attractive to him and that the problem may be with his antidepressants, which he was taking long before we met. He recently lowered his dose, but I don't know what the effect is. I love him very much, but he is so cold that he doesn't even touch me anymore, it's as if I'm asexual to him, at least I feel like that. Is there any salvation for me? How can I reduce my libido, because I'm tired of constant conversations and asking if he still likes me …
The problem of not wanting to have sex appears more and more often, and usually women blame themselves for it, thinking that they are no longer attractive, but the cause most often lies elsewhere. Antidepressants very often have a negative effect on sexuality, causing loss of sexual needs, problems with erection, and reaching orgasm. In addition, depression itself can cause similar problems, and since your partner is taking medication, she is likely suffering from depressed mood. If, in addition, his mood has deteriorated more recently (which does not necessarily have to be noticeable to you), sexual dysfunction may have increased. If this happens, you can go to your doctor and ask for a change of medication. There are many different antidepressants, some of them have a greater influence on sexuality and others less (it also depends on the individual predispositions of the individual).
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support fortranssexual people.
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