I tried everything: from forcing her to walk with a dirty bottom to drawing clouds with storms and sunshine, etc. It is a big problem for us, we don't have the strength anymore and we have run out of ideas.
Beato! A child of this age has the right not yet to control the issue of bowel movements on his own. It depends on the parents how effective the cleanliness training will be. I do not know what it looks like with you, if your daughter still wears a diaper, but one thing is certain: the child must not be punished in such situations. Screaming and embarrassing are also punishments. The main principles are rewarding, shared joy if the child indicates a need, or sits on the potty or toilet on his own (even if he does it in panties at the beginning). To help your daughter, put her on the potty at times when she usually has a bowel movement. Each successful attempt should be rewarded (cheers, applause, praise for being so adult). There may also be rewards, e.g. a favorite candy that the child only gets for making a potty poop. In order for her to like the potty and sit on it well, it is worth introducing a permanent, nice ritual for this time, e.g. telling a fairy tale. Every child is different and you need to adapt to them. There is no one specific recipe. Someone was helped by the potty with music, and for someone the same potty was of no use, because the child did not like it. The breakthrough came when the bear got his little toilet seat and started to use it in play. After a short time, the owner of the teddy bear and the teddy bear were happy to sit on a real toilet. You need to stay calm, be patient and, knowing your child, keep trying. Some children prefer to use the toilet seat immediately. Then they feel like adults, they take care of themselves like their parents, preferring to do it in the bathroom, e.g. because of the smell. You have to be careful with draining the water in the toilet. Some children are afraid of this. That's it, in short. There are more extensive studies on this subject, for example, a book by Martin Herbert "Training for the purity of a small child" published by the Gdańsk Psychological Publishing House. I encourage you to read. B.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Barbara Śreniowska-SzafranEducator with many years of experience.
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