I've been with my boyfriend for six months. Everything is fine, although the beginnings were hard. But sometimes I get fed up with it and everything about it annoys me. I don't know what's happening to me, but it is. And the most important thing that divides us. He insists on intercourse, and I categorically refuse. I'm not ready and I just don't want to do this. Each of our meetings ends with his request and my refusal. He supposedly says that he does not care about it and that he will wait, but he tells his friends that he is only waiting for it and that I will probably give in soon (we have a common friend, hence I know it). Is every guy like that? All I want is love … Shall I walk away from him? Maybe he should be with a girl who will meet his needs? I'm young, I don't want to waste my life …
You dream about love, about a hot feeling. Consider whether this feeling exists in your relationship and whether it is mutual. You meet. But he annoys you and he can't be discreet. Would you like to spend your next life with such a person? Maybe you two met too soon. Maybe he still needs to mature a little more? Ask yourself the question, what is this boy like? Does he treat you as a momentary adventure that he tells his colleagues about, or is he more seriously involved emotionally. Does it give you psychological support and is it responsible? Consider if your feelings are what you expected and if you feel comfortable with them. Maybe you cheat both him and yourself? Maybe you are not dating for hot feelings but for some other reason (e.g. some girls think it's a shame not to have a boyfriend). Talk honestly with yourself. First, you need to be clear on these points. The result of your thoughts will tell you whether you know this man enough and whether you want to continue dating him. It's a good thing that you take your relationship with a man seriously and consider it in terms of your own future. Mistakes take a long time to take revenge. And such a mistake can be having sex without deeper feelings. When it comes to sex, it's up to the woman to decide. Nothing by force. If he is a smart guy and he loves, he will wait. If he does not love, he will give up quickly. You are only 17 years old, you only know each other for six months, you don't feel that this is your dream one - watch out!
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