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Relationships of people over 50 are less intense than youthful ones, but more mature and looser at the same time. A simple example: they met when they were old - growing children, habits and baggage of experiences. And then the dilemmas arose: is it appropriate to fall in love at my age, how to tell my loved ones that I want to be happy? Why does late love still arouse extreme emotions?
Psychologists emphasize that any season is good forlove .Mature feelingcan be as beautiful as in youth, and everyone has the right to be happy, regardless of age. Meanwhile, the sight of 60-year-olds in love still outrages some. Fearing the opinion of the people around them, some women - divorced women, widows or those who have not yet met their other half - forcibly defend themselves against feelings. According to psychologists, this is a mistake because, apart from a few exceptions, we are not designed to be alone. Everyone, regardless of age, needs tenderness, care and a sense of security. So if you do happen to love late, make full use of it! It is a pity to reject the feeling and then regret being left with a missed opportunity.
Is it appropriate to fall in love after 50?
Old age and passion are still mutually exclusive in our civilization. Even adult children find it difficult to imagine parents, especially grandparents, in love or having sex. We live in a rather bourgeois community, where the second half of life is associated with disease, entertaining grandchildren and loneliness.
Some people find it difficult to accept that since we live much longer than several dozen years ago, more and more people in retirement age are professionally active, play sports, and have plans for the future. As a result, the love that appears in adulthood often surprises even the lovers themselves. We forget that even the best relationships with children or friends will not replace the closeness that arises between a man and a woman, that there should be a place for sex in life.
Let's stop worrying that family or friends are surprised: "at this age, do you want love …?". People who cannot enjoy someone else's happiness and criticize others often do so out of jealousy. We must not let anyone decide about our happiness. So let's implement our needs andlet us put them above what anyone will think of us.
Does the relationship of mature people after the transition have a chance of success?
When you start making plans together, you often fear whether your relationship with your partner has a chance of success. Psychologists emphasize that if someone is divorced or single, it does not mean that they have any deficits. As you know, failure can be a good lesson for the future. You just need to draw conclusions and not make mistakes that led to the breakdown of the partnership bond.
In mature age, we no longer blindly throw ourselves into Cupid's arms, we have more experience and a greater distance to everything. It is worth believing your intuition. Sometimes you hear about scammers, but these are occasional situations. When you decide to build a relationship, you always take some risk. However, if you do not trust your partner, you will not find happiness, even if it is ideal.
Our self-esteem also determines the relationships we enter into. You do not believe in yourself, you are a fearful person, you have a greater chance that you will bond with the person who will take advantage of it. We are afraid of comparisons with our previous partner. It is difficult to avoid such confrontations completely. It is known that the predecessor was an important person for our partner, but it is not allowed to fight for priority. Because remembering a person is one thing, and what is happening now is a completely different quality.
New relationship after 50: base it on experience, but do not mention ex-partners
Often, women unnecessarily provoke comparisons, for example by asking "what was she like?" … Think, you are a different person, you create a different pair, at a different stage of your life, so why make such judgments. When an embarrassing situation arises, be clear about what you do not like ("you spend too much time on things from the past", "you're constantly talking about your ex-wife") and either your partner will change his behavior or you will have to step back. Willingness to a new relationship means accepting the distinctiveness of the new person, understanding that one can have different habits, habits, and hobbies. In some cases it is possible to compromise, in others you have to leave a free space.
Life experience makes people of a certain age more understanding and easier to resolve conflicts. Mature love brings with it far fewer problems than the feeling of youth. Both partners have a stable professional and financial position, they do not have to deal with raising children, they can focus on each other and have a good time. When they are both retired, they can just be with each other, go somewhere, go to the movies. Relationships later in life have thisthe advantage that they can be close and at the same time loose. You don't have to get married right away, you can live separately and meet when we both want it. It is important that we feel good about ourselves.
Advantages of love over 50
Do mature people have "butterflies in their stomachs"? It is an individual matter. It is certainly not as crazy as in youth, but it does not mean that we are not infatuated with each other. We only experience it a bit differently. Mature love is calmer, romantic, more focused on friendship than on sex. The man has already learned about the woman's psyche, he appreciates and adores her more. Love that appears late in life gives a feeling of great joy. Closeness, warmth, care of a partner and satisfaction of needs that we are more aware of than at the age of 20 - all this makes us start a new life.
When we convince ourselves that it is not appropriate to fall in love after 50, it is as if we pushed ourselves to the sidelines. You have to believe that it is worth looking for love at any age, because it adds vitality. A woman in love is happy, she feels younger, has shiny eyes, smoother skin, wants to please herself, cares for herself more. Love makes you feel more valuable, gives you the feeling of being a woman, not only a mother, a grandmother, a good aunt. Sometimes it's good to close your eyes and throw yourself into deep water.
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