From November 2016, I started receiving psychiatric treatment, I was diagnosed with anxiety neurosis and depression. I was given medication and after a while I started to feel a difference. I no longer struggled with the severe headaches I had before, I began to enjoy life, I had fewer tantrums and aggression, the only drawback was that I gained a lot of weight in a short time, but overall I felt psychologically well. Even my husband and children noticed the difference that I do not walk all the time, irritated, etc. In September this year, I found out that I was pregnant, which my husband and I planned. The due date is May 12, 2022. Of course, as soon as I found out about the pregnancy, I stopped taking my medications and went to report everything to my psychiatrist, who ordered me not to take any medications and to try to cope with even worse times. I tried, but what happens to me becomes a nightmare. Everything comes back … Headaches, shortness of breath, fatigue, insomnia, stress, crying for anything, changing moods, palpitations, numbness in the limbs, low self-esteem, and even suicidal thoughts . I don't know how to deal with it. I would not like to take medication so as not to harm my child, but I cannot cope by myself, the more so because I am almost all day alone with two children (10 and 4 years old), my husband works from morning to evening, tries to calm me down and comfort me, but this works for a while. I was thinking about the advice of a psychologist, but is it enough?
It is indeed a difficult and unpleasant situation. First of all, you should have someone to help with the children - parents, in-laws, siblings? Secondly - I would advise you to start psychotherapy that will probably allow you to channel tensions and relieve anger, resentment and other negative emotions. Additional childcare will provide you with some time for yourself. And then - pleasure and relaxation, even by watching a comedy or listening to music, even walking when it's cold. It is worth finding relaxing music on the Internet and listening to it, the more so that in some time the baby in your belly will also listen to it together with you. This is important because - unfortunately - the baby and the mother are nervous. Please try. There are also numerous clinics for pregnant women - it is worth calling the nearest birthing school and asking if they also offer psychological help.for a pregnant mother. You can go there together. Greetings to both of you, please let me know in some time how you feel.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Bohdan BielskiPsychologist, specialist with 30 years of experience, trainer of psychosocial skills, expert psychologist of the District Court in Warsaw.
Main areas of activity:mediation services, family counseling, care for a person in a crisis situation, manager training.
First of all, it focuses on building good relationships based on understanding and respect. He undertook numerous crisis interventions and took care of people in a deep crisis.
He lectured in forensic psychology at the Faculty of Psychology of SWPS in Warsaw, at the University of Warsaw and the University of Zielona Góra.
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