We have had smaller or bigger problems for some time. I try and he tries too, but sometimes a little thing is enough, like asking what he is looking at in the window, and he takes it as a grudge, then says that he doesn't know why he is with me, that he doesn't feel comfortable and I limit it because I ask. He can cross a relationship with such a thing, and then he gives an ultimatum that if I pick on like that, we break up. When I talk to him about it that he takes it badly, and I'm not going to pick on him, he continues to regret how unhappy he is. Even though he is rude to me himself. And while talking, he is playing with the phone, he does not look at me. Laughs. When I say that I feel indifferent and ignored to him, he doesn't say anything. Checks the time. And it is not going to say that it is not. She says to feel confident in the relationship. But how? It wipes out our life through stupidity. He ignores me and doesn't listen to the conversation. When I say it's not what he says, or that I don't like him saying something to me now, then he starts bidding, and you don't say that, how many times you've said so recently. But when I say that I feel indifferent to him, he doesn't comment on it. Is this clearly disrespectful to me and should I part with him? This thought has been with me for a long time. It's good and in an instant he can tell me how bad I am and that I am still like that. I feel happy once and not. Who hurts more of whom is arguing with me. But he ignores me when I feel indifferent to him. My mind is confused. We rent an apartment together, we had common plans. This state of depression will probably go away again and it will be fine again, but in a while it will happen again, and then what. Is it worth being with someone who runs away when there is an argument and immediately talks about the end of the relationship. He doesn't show that he doesn't want to end it and that he cares. I am confused by such single situations. I can't feel confident. I feel bad about it. What should I do?
The essence of a relationship is the sense of security on both sides. It is difficult to say exactly what the reactions of your partner described by you mean, except that they clearly show that the chances of communication are slim. If you do not get involved in a joint relationship therapy, the prospects are rather bad, and the last word that you put in the title is a solution worth thinking about.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Bohdan BielskiPsychologist, specialist with 30 years of experience, trainer of psychosocial skills, expert psychologist of the District Court in Warsaw.
Main areas of activity:mediation services, family counseling, care for a person in a crisis situation, manager training.
First of all, it focuses on building good relationships based on understanding and respect. He undertook numerous crisis interventions and took care of people in a deep crisis.
He lectured in forensic psychology at the Faculty of Psychology of SWPS in Warsaw, at the University of Warsaw and the University of Zielona Góra.
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