You would like to be a mother, but you are terribly afraid of pregnancy, childbirth and motherhood. You are worried about being overweight after pregnancy, the pain in labor and that you will not be able to cope with your baby. Here are the six fears that keep you awake at night. We will help you deal with them.
1. Fears of pregnancy: I will be fat pregnant, I will lose my figure
Fact - By the end you will look like a boa rattlesnake that is digesting a ram. Just aftergiving birthyou won't be as slim as a lily either. But whether you return to your figure afterpregnancyis largely up to you. And anyway, even if you don't find the time to exercise, you'll still be on the move. The 24-hour hustle and bustle around your baby, a daily walk and breastfeeding will make you forget what excess weight is after a few months.
2. Fears of pregnancy: will the baby be he althy?
You have a lot of influence on that too. Instead of being afraid, you should learn as much as possible about preparation for pregnancy and about the pregnancy itself. Get tested and cure all ailments, and if you suffer from chronic diseases - see a specialist. Take care of your he alth, rest, fitness, and a varied diet during pregnancy. And don't be shy to ask your doctor when something bothers you or you don't know something.
3. Fears of pregnancy: I am afraid of childbirth, pain. How will I be born?
It is indeed hard to believe thatbabycomes out into the world through such a narrow channel. Perhaps that is why we speak of the "miracle of birth". But nature has endowed you with everything you need to do: endurance against pain and an arsenal of hormones to control labor. Billions of women have given birth to you without the medical support you will have, so don't be afraid. Doctors will not give birth to you, but modern medicine can do a lot to ease your suffering. Important: The more you know about the birth, the less you will fear. Try to find out as much as possible, but not from friends who will scare you with their experiences. Find a good birthing school, talk to an experienced midwife or obstetrician.
4. Fears of pregnancy: will I be able to look after my baby?
You will learn everything - still in childbirth school and in the hospital. If you don't know something, you will ask your mother, cousin, "baby" friend. Bathing, feeding and dressing your baby is easyactivities; they have to be done many times a day, so you will quickly get used to it and learn to understand what your baby needs. Give yourself the right to make a mistake - you are only human. Don't try to be the perfect mother. You just need to be a good mother: not all-knowing and always right, but tender, loving and wise.
5. Fears of pregnancy: will I be able to cope with my new responsibilities?
You are the last link in a centuries-old chain of women: your mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, great-great-great-great-great … They had to take care of a group of children in times of wars, poverty, natural disasters and economic crises. They fed, dressed and cared for their children as they could - in times when there were no washing machines, refrigerators, diapers, ready-made clothes, conditioners, lenses, instant porridges, cars, antibiotics, the Internet and labor law. Your existence is the best proof that they somehow got along. You can do it too.
6. Fears of pregnancy: what if I am fired from my job?
As long as you are pregnant, you are protected by the law. After maternity leave, your employer may find any excuse to fire you. However, would you like to stay with such an employer? If you see that your boss is looking askance at your pregnancy, think about an alternative in advance. Consider a part-time or contract job or a contract for specific work. This option may even be better than a full-time job as it will allow you to work from home and babysit.