I am in the first class of technical secondary school. At the very beginning of the school year, I liked the boy from my class, but I knew that there would be nothing between us (I have a very critical opinion about myself). During the summer holidays, I promised myself that I would not have a better contact with anyone than being friendly, but well … I started writing with this boy. We had a lot of common topics, we were able to talk about everything. We started to be friends in October. We promised ourselves, however, that we would do everything to prevent the class from finding out, we did not want nonsensical talking. A few days ago, we talked on the phone at night and it turned out that we both confessed to each other how we felt for each other. We could turn relationship into relationship, but it's not that simple. We are both afraid of losing each other, we don't want to risk losing our friendship because that is really something we have never experienced before. On the one hand, we both want to be together, but if we did not succeed, we would have to put up with each other for another 3 years, and if our breakup ended in a quarrel, we would have to watch each other during this time, feeling hatred towards each other. Neither I nor he know what to do about it, and it is hard to stay for a long time somewhere between friendship and love. I am asking for help, because I don't know what to do anymore.
Don't be afraid !!! Have you read Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet? Don't duplicate her drama! Love him and let him love you - after all, there is nothing more beautiful in life! Don't worry about class and talking, because there are always some people talking about us. Don't write that "you could change a relationship into a relationship" and that it's not that simple. Love knows no formalities, love simply exists and connects, usually gives happiness and joy. Enjoy what you feel for yourself, enjoy yourself. And the breakup - don't look that far into the future … Promise yourselves that - if it does happen - try to part with respect and class, without hostility. But now just think about yourself. Don't thank me - thank fate that you love and are loved.
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Bohdan BielskiPsychologist, specialist with 30 years of experience, trainer of psychosocial skills,expert psychologist at the District Court in Warsaw.
Main areas of activity:mediation services, family counseling, care for a person in a crisis situation, manager training.
First of all, it focuses on building good relationships based on understanding and respect. He undertook numerous crisis interventions and took care of people in a deep crisis.
He lectured in forensic psychology at the Faculty of Psychology of SWPS in Warsaw, at the University of Warsaw and the University of Zielona Góra.
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