Half a year ago I had a rather unpleasant situation, which made me unable to cope and had to go to a psychologist, but unfortunately I did not finish the therapy because there was a vacation and there was no time. At the beginning of this school year, I slowly fell into a depressed state, which made me behave very strangely, I was not amused by jokes, sometimes when someone pushed me for any reason, I ran to the bathroom and cried. I also missed a lot of days telling my parents that I felt bad, and there was one reason - I cannot perceive various taunts, moods, etc. of my peers. My friend has been behaving badly towards me lately, saying things like "don't fight yourself again" - in fact I am a sensitive person, but I am sorry if someone points it out to me like that. She also talks about a lot of people and says that they talk to me too and I start to talk about them nervously too. I have no idea what to do, how to behave when she is talking to someone. Should I confide in her on my problems? I would also like to add that a lot of things about her annoy me, I wonder if I should tell her about it in a delicate way. What should I do in order not to be such a "push"? What should I do to avoid doing something against my will (gossiping)? How am I supposed to treat my friend now? Should I go to a psychologist to complete the therapy?
The answer to all the questions you have asked is to continue the therapy. It will allow you to take a look at the changes that have occurred in your relationship with your friend. With the support of a competent specialist, you can check whether this is an acquaintance that is still worth fighting for, or whether it should rather be thought about changing the company. The therapy is also helpful in relation to the difficulties you write about. You mention the "difficult situation" that took place six months ago and that "you cannot perceive various taunts and moods". These emotions, crying more than usual, taking action against your will, and reluctance to go to school are problems that you don't have to deal with alone. The very fact of being at school age and the changes that result from the puberty process make it difficult to endure everyday difficulties, often negatively affecting the mood. I think that in this situation, if you have such an opportunity, it would be a good idea to talk to relatives, trusted adults, e.g. parents, and contact a therapist who wouldso far he has supported you.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Patrycja Szeląg-JaroszPsychologist, coach, personal development trainer. She gained professional experience working in the field of psychological support, crisis intervention, professional activation and coaching.He specializes in the area of life coaching, supporting the client in improving the quality of life, strengthening self-esteem and active self-esteem, maintaining life balance and effectively dealing with the challenges of everyday life. She has been associated with non-governmental organizations in Warsaw since 2007, co-runs the Center for Personal Development and Psychological Services of the Compass
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