- Misalliance: what is it?
- Mezallians: contemporary examples
- Mezallians: is it worth getting involved in?
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Mezallians is a term that is theoretically no longer used today, but in practice many relationships are defined in this way - as an example we can give the relationship entered into by Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. What exactly is a misalliance and is it worth getting involved in?
Contents:
- Misalliance: what is it?
- Mezallians: contemporary examples
- Mezallians: is it easy to get involved in?
Mezallianscould illustrate the saying that "love is blind" - after all, people in love rarely pay attention to their professional positions, the we alth of their wallets or the opinions of their relatives about their relationship.
Today, it is much easier for two people to feel affectionate into a relationship, even if they are many different, in the past mesalliance was a bigger problem.
Misalliance: what is it?
According to the definition, misalliance is a relationship with a person from a lower social class - e.g. a nobleman with a peasant woman. In the past, this type of relationship was considered absolutely unacceptable and because of such beliefs many relationships in which the only obstacle were class differences were disintegrating.
It is not difficult to find descriptions of the mesalliance in various literary works - such relationships have been described, among others in "Nad Niemnem" by Eliza Orzeszkowa, "Doll" by Bolesław Prus or in "Skąpiec" by Molière.
Today we no longer distinguish between different classes in society, so theoretically the term mesalliance should cease to apply at all. Theoretically, because in practice, we still encounter different problems when the relationship is formed by two people with some significant differences between them.
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Mezallians: contemporary examples
Contrary to appearances, the mesalliance has not been forgotten at all - although in today's Poland there is no fear that a nobleman will bond with a peasant woman, there are objections in the case of other differences between two people close to each other.
One of the loudest cases of mesalliance in recent times is the relationship between Prince Harry and the American actress Meghan Markle. After disclosureinformation that the two had feelings in common, there were many comments - many of them were negative. Many people found it hard to understand how people from such different backgrounds could bond with each other. Meghan Markle has also fallen victim to racist remarks more than once.
The example from Great Britain may seem quite distant, but in practice we can also encounter mesallies in Poland. Today, however, the term is understood differently.
One can distinguish an economic mismatch, when a relationship begins to form a fairly we althy person with a person whose earnings significantly differ from their income. A relationship in which a person with higher education is associated with someone who has only basic education can also be a misalliance.
Mezallians: is it worth getting involved in?
People who enter into a relationship rather do not pay attention to their differences - if someone does, it is rather their immediate environment. For example, the parents of a bride who graduated from prestigious studies are not able to imagine that she will marry a bachelor who has only received basic education.
It also happens that friends of a we althy man dissuade him from having a relationship with a woman whose earnings are at the level of the national minimum wage.
Theoretically, it could be said that love is able to survive anything, but in practice - unfortunately - this is not always the case. The pressure of family or friends can be underestimated for a very long time, but when the next few months of the relationship pass, and the relatives still have some comments about the chosen one, it can cause considerable difficulties.
It's hard to keep listening to the fact that he or she are absolutely unsuitable candidates for a husband or wife - just as with a family you can manage to keep a straight face, so at home the mask may fall off and the person to whom the suggested is that her relationship is a misalliance, she can discharge tension on her other half.
This may soon become the reason why the relationship, which was initially idyllic, will eventually become a battleground and will soon disintegrate.
So what to do - to definitely believe your relatives that the relationship is a misalliance and to run away from it? Absolutely not - it's best to try to convince your family or friends first that some differences do exist, but that they don't have much of an impact on the relationship between two people.
Convincing loved ones to your arguments is usually not easy and it often takes quite a long time, but it is definitely worth trying- you can certainly remain in a relationship despite being judged negatively by your relatives, but it is definitely easier to remain in a relationship when the environment does not criticize it all the time.
About the authorBow. Tomasz NęckiA graduate of the medical faculty at the Medical University of Poznań. An admirer of the Polish sea (most willingly strolling along its shores with headphones in his ears), cats and books. In working with patients, he focuses on always listening to them and spending as much time as they need.