You are waiting for Easter, in your imagination you can already see a tidy house, a kitchen full of goodies and a happy family. Be careful if you try to live up to this vision - you will welcome the holiday tired and irritable. Read our recipe for a peaceful and joyful holiday.

The world will not collapse if not everything onEasterwill be buttoned up to the last button. To avoid unnecessary rush, make a realistic plan of action 2-3 weeks before theholidays . From the things to do, choose only what is really important. Consider what cleaning your apartment really requires. Do you now need to polish the chandeliers, polish the crystals and scrub the joints? Often it is enough to wash the windows, wipe the dust, clean the bathroom, put Easter eggs and a bouquet of spring flowers on the table to make the apartment smell fresh and look festive. Remember that life will go on after Christmas - then you will finish spring cleaning. Don't assume that if you were baking pate, cheesecake and mazurkas for the whole family each year, this will be the case this year as well.

Happy Easter: Don't be a perfectionist

Ideals are there to be pursued, not to be. You don't need to have the cleanest windows around, the best cheesecake and Cepelia Easter eggs. If you know that you will not make it on time or something is too much for you, just let it go. Any compulsion is the enemy of a good mood, and Christmas is supposed to be nice. When ambition prevails over reason, we burn out quickly and become chronically tired. One thing about perfectionism is that it prompts you to correct others. If the husband has vacuumed the carpet, do not collect pollen from it, do not rub the tiles when the daughter has just washed them. This way you lose your strength, time and nerves. And on top of that, you make your loved ones upset.

Happy Easter: Make a plan

Make a list of the dishes you want to make and examine the list critically. Remember how many things usually remain intact on the table … Limit yourself to the traditional treats that everyone likes. If you are going to host a large family during the holidays, let everyone prepare something. Don't put off cooking all your dishes until the last minute. If you decide to have a pate, you can prepare the meat base 2 weeks before Christmas and freeze it. After that, you only add the remaining ingredients andput in the oven. Baked bottoms for tightly packed mazurkas can stay in a cool place for up to 10 days. A good solution is also to freeze the raw dough. Everything that does not break down is best to buy in advance so as not to stand in lines.

Happy Easter: fun time

Read a book, watch a movie, go to the swimming pool, for a walk, to the cinema or for gossip. Or lie in an aromatic bath in a bathtub. Go to the hairdresser or beautician, make yourself something new. It is important to do what you want and not what you have to do, because only then will you rest and relax. When organizing your time, follow the order in the "priority list" so that when it's time to rest, calm down, and not get upset that you missed everything. Women who are cheerful and relaxed cope more easily and build warm relationships with their relatives and others. Therefore, first of all, take care of yourself, because it is difficult to get a good mood when you are tired and sleepy.

According to an expertMonika Dreger, psychologist, Warsaw Psychological Group

We often do not realize how exhausting we can be for family and friends during the Christmas preparations. We conduct, rush, rebuke, all in order to… make it perfect. The only question is, for whom? Who will give the opinion: good Christmas or bad? It is worth considering whose voice tells us that we must match our mother or aunt. Are our actions to meet our or others' needs? Many of us can't let go, despite the fact that the family is annoyed by the whole pre-Christmas rush. Disregarding the expectations of our relatives, we keep going. We do not realize that the family does not need such perfect holidays, but rather that mom should be smiling. It is worth stopping and considering where this compulsion, which can spoil the atmosphere, comes from. Just more slack to gain inner peace.

Happy Easter: Share your pre-holiday cleaning

Don't take it all on yourself, or you'll fail in a load of classes. This is especially true for women who combine work and home duties. Psychologists call the division of duties "delegating responsibility". Ideally, everyone should do what they like best. If the husband prefers to vacuum, let him clean, if he cooks well, let him join the kitchen. I iron the curtains, you wash the windows. Remember that holidays are family time, so family time should be prepared. Children can dust the books, clean up on the desk, the older ones - help with shopping, some kitchen chores.

Happy Easter: maybe a trip to Easter?

If you are fed up with Christmas at home, persuade your family to go out together. You will avoidcleaning and cooking throughout the holidays. If you combine a short holiday with a few days of vacation, you will get many additional benefits: you will strengthen your immunity, relax, oxygenate and stimulate your bones.

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