Cinema evokes real emotions in us. We instinctively choose: romance, crime fiction or thriller. Some people are passionate about watching romantic comedies. It's not a coincidence. The film can be a remedy for stress, loneliness, boredom, and bad mood.

I don't remember my mother ever crying. Even in the most dramatic moments of her life, she always found a way out of the situation. On the other hand, she would roar like a beaver when she watched sappy romances. She was nervous about dramas, hated horror movies. She experienced the plot as her own emotions - says 27-year-old Katarzyna Załuska. He admits that he lovescinema . Considers a week lost if he doesn't watch a goodmovie . He especially appreciates heavy and serious matters. - I rarely go tocomedies , because of the funny ones I only watch the works of Quentin Tarantino - says Kasia. - Some people have a need to analyze the difficult problems of this world. They are sensitive and emotionally mature. In the cinema, they look for important experiences, not relaxation - explains Magda Małkiewicz-Borkowska, head of the MABOR Therapy and Psychological Education Center in Warsaw.

How to help yourself with a movie?

Before you buy a movie ticket, think about your mental state. If you feel unwell, don't go for a drama that will plunge you even more, rather choose a comedy.

Important

What movies do you like the most:

  • Romances, melodramas - maybe you suffer from a lack of love, fulfillment in life or you have a great need to experience love. Watching her on the screen replaces your true feelings. If you are faced with this problem in your life, watching even a slight romance can make you feel worse.
  • War crime stories - you are an introvert, you hide emotions, but you need very strong stimuli, life at a very high speed, noise and hustle and bustle.
  • Adventure - maybe you want to live in another world for a while. It cleans and calms you down.

Film as a therapeutic tool

Some psychologists recommend that patients watch the movie. This is one of the therapeutic tools. They are included in art therapy (the use of art, e.g. music, graphics to heal the soul). Being aware of your own experiences is an important element of therapy. While watching the film, the patient has a chance to discover what is deeply hidden in it. Sometimes it hides emotions so tightly thatonly when he sees how a stranger (the protagonist) experiences them, observing his life and the way of solving problems, can he understand that his situation is analogous. Marek, 52, had trouble showing affection. He considered it a weakness, he despised people who professed love for themselves. His partner suffered from it. - There are people so locked that nothing can be done to unlock them. Their way of experiencing is shallow. It happens that contact with a film masterpiece will move the patient - adds the psychotherapist. Mark understood that telling Ania nice things is necessary for her and does not diminish his masculinity. Thanks to the film, he overcame one of the mental blocks.

You must do it

Ask yourself a few questions:

  • What emotions do you like to experience?
  • What stage of your life are you at (troubles with children, divorce, betrayal, work fatigue)?
  • Do you want to rest and detach yourself from reality?
  • Should the movie be loud and colorful or muted and calm?
  • Do you prefer a fairy tale or reality?
  • Why do you go to the cinema? - this is the most important question that you need to ask yourself at the end and carefully analyze the above answers.

After the screening, think about:

  • What were your reactions to the film?
  • Analyze this by comparing the hero's situation to your own.
  • What was the most important thing in the film, how do you understand it?
  • What does this movie say about you?

Happy ending videos give hope

Lucyna loves sloppy movies (she cannot be dragged into a crime story even by force). For 15 years she had a husband and three daughters. The husband worked part-time. He spent the money earned by Lucyna on pleasures: ties, perfumes, books. On top of that, he was an alcoholic. When drunk, he could hit her, then apologized and assured her that he loved. Lucyna coped with everything on her own, she could not count on anyone. Her parents have been dead for several years. When she decided to leave her husband, he took the children and took them to their parents. For three years she fought with him for daughters and for a divorce, to which he refused. Today she moved to another city. She is alone with the children. She emphasizes that she would not change her situation for another, she values ​​peace. - I like movies with beautiful photos, music that is pleasant to the ear, rather about a happy love - Lucyna confides. - Often people who have gone through a lot in their lives just want to feel happy in the cinema. It is known that this is a false world, but they live the lives of the heroes as if they were their own. Happy end gives hope that it will also be like that in life - explains the therapist.

The film allows you to see someone else's fate

Where does the popularity of Brazilian andMexican? - It may not be high-profile cinema, but please pay attention to how great emotions come into play there. The heroes, if they love and hate, are ready to give their lives for it, explains the psychotherapist. - Sitting at specific hours in front of the TV and following series is a kind of watching someone else's fate. If someone has a routine life, he can experience a lot together with the heroes from the glass screen. And each of us needs emotions - adds Małkiewicz-Borkowska. - The Spanish film "Lonely" about the relationship between mother and daughter made a great impression on me - I confided. - The girl was cruel to her mother, and she loved her so much that she forgave her everything. The film was in gray and black tones, heavy and beautiful at the same time, with poignant music. During the screening, I started to cry. I felt like I couldn't help myself. I left the cinema but couldn't calm down for a good ten minutes, I confessed. "When I got home, I called my mom and told her I loved her." After the movie, I felt so much guilt that I visit her too rarely and I'm just as angry as my daughter in the movie. - The lady identified with the mother, not with the daughter. She felt what a mother abused by a child feels - I heard the psychologist's interpretation. - And guilt kicked in.

The film allows you to experience emotions for someone

Sometimes we leave the cinema feeling shaken, crying or, on the contrary - happy and full of optimism. The film allows you to experience emotions for someone. It is someone who suffers from love, dies, loses children, is beaten, abandoned, rejoices and loves with reciprocity. Dumb. We are sitting in the armchair. And yet our emotions are no different from the real ones. It is worth analyzing them to find out what we want and what we lack or have had enough of. - After watching the Czech movie "Loners", I realized that I had to part with my fiancé - says Basia. - We were together for seven years, love passed, now we were only comfortable. In the film, I understood how I want to live. Going to the movies can be destructive or positive. - When we are in a bad mood, we don't like the movie. Years later, having seen it again, we will perceive it differently. It happened to me several times - says Magda Małkiewicz-Borkowska. - Cinema is like a tablet of emotions. Taken the wrong disease, it will not work or be harmful. So let's choose films that suit us, and not those that are fashionable - he emphasizes. - It happened that someone discovered a fascinating underwater world in the film and today he dives himself. Someone else was inspired by photography, bodybuilding, acting. Cinema helps us make choices, experience, get to know and travel. There would not be enough for all of this in the real worldtime.

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