I'm homosexual. I have been with my partner for a year. Unfortunately, we had a crisis for 2 months and at that time another person showed up. He teased me a lot, he made me fancy that I should leave my boyfriend. He did it. That's why I left my partner overnight and went to another, even though I loved him and still love him. After a few days, I regretted my decision, because although it hadn't been going well between us for 2 months, it was the only thing that mattered. I wanted to come back. He gave me a chance, I was very happy about it, but unfortunately that boy was not giving me peace. He continued to write to me, among other things that he loves me, misses me and that he wants me to come back. I got carried away again for the moment and left my beloved one for another. As time passed, I found out that he was only toying with my feelings because he wanted to destroy my relationship. I have suffered a lot and still do. The second time it was not easy to fight for your beloved. I tried so hard, I fought. I was depressed. I was in a state of nervous breakdown. In the end, he gave me the last chance, but said: I'm giving you a chance, I don't know why, maybe because my heart is too good. Remember that I do not love you after what you have done and you are indifferent to me. It hurt me a lot, but I was to blame for myself, now we live together and I fight for him, it is very difficult because I hear from his lips: I do not love you and I do not know if I will love you. It takes a while for me to forgive you and maybe love you again. I realized my mistake and told myself that I would never do it again. This situation very much opened my eyes. I don't know what to do now, wait or just walk away?
You must answer the question, what do you expect from the relationship you are in, whether your expectations and needs have a chance to be realized or satisfied in this relationship. The description shows that for some reasons you resigned from this relationship twice - it is worth thinking about the reasons for such a decision and it is worth taking responsibility for it, not forcing it on a third person (someone who seduced you), but to name why the Lord left .
I don't know if you talked to your partner about this. At the moment you are saying that the chance to be with your partner means a lot to you, but you also have doubts, you are not sure whether to stay or leave. You do not write what they refer todoubts whether you or your partner. Maybe you should give yourself a moment and find out for yourself what you feel, what you expect from yourself in this relationship and what you expect from your partner and whether these expectations are realistic and whether you want to be in this relationship, even if they are not possible now or in the future.
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Dominika Ambroziewicz-WnukPsychologist, personal development trainer.
For 20 years she has been working with teenagers, young adults and their carers. Supports people who experience school and relational difficulties, adolescence disorders and teenage parents www.centrum-busola.pl
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