We have been together for almost 3 years, the problem is that every attempt to contact our partner ends after 3 minutes, because she tells me to stop because it hurts her. She had been to her doctor several times before and he said nothing. We tried all kinds of aids: gels, creams, foreplay, we made the mood, all for nothing; we changed positions, took breaks and had no effect. We have a terrible problem with this, because we have not had sex at all for 2 months, because our partner does not want to, because she simply hurts. When we start intercourse everything looks normal, I feel like my partner is excited etc. but only when we try to make love does she say that she is in pain and that I should stop. What could be the reasons for this?
From what you write, I understand that you and your partner are looking for help, it is important that you continue to support your partner and that you show tenderness to each other. I do not know what your partner's lifestyle is, what problems has she struggled with, how she deals with stress, or has she already consulted a psychologist. I think that there is no need to delay and it is worth encouraging your partner to seek the help of a psychologist, psychotherapist and an experienced sexologist. Tips and recommendations can be very helpful and effective. It is worth looking for a specialist who is both a psychotherapist and a sexologist. You can get free help in a mental he alth clinic or neurosis treatment clinics. All the best
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Dominika Ambroziewicz-WnukPsychologist, personal development trainer.
For 20 years she has been working with teenagers, young adults and their carers. Supports people who experience school and relational difficulties, adolescence disorders and teenage parents www.centrum-busola.pl
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