My girlfriend recently accused me of not being honest with her, lying all the time that I was in a state of virginity (virgin). I didn't really have sex, the only thing I did was I had oral intercourse with another girl once in my life, to which I confessed. It doesn't matter, and I really care about a girl. She doesn't want to be with me and we had plans in common. She says I had intercourse. So in her opinion, I'm not absolutely a virgin and that's why we're done. The answers on the internet vary. I care about her a lot, so I'm looking for information from an expert.
According to the definition, a virgin is a person who has not yet had sexual intercourse. From your account it appears that you have had sexual experiences in the form of caresses and oral intercourse behind you. The sexual behavior you mention happens at this stage in your life and is developmental, ie, appropriate to your age. In my opinion, you are a virgin.
I understand that your girlfriend has decided to hook up with someone who has no sexual experience and you are trying to convince her that knowing from the past is not important to you. I do not know why this criterion was set by the partner and what values are so important to her, try to be honest about your feelings and plans towards her, maybe she will change her mind, be patient. You have a right to your past and from what you have written you have been honest with your partner, but it may also be the case that the partner's lack of previous sexual experience is an undisputable condition for her and you will not be able to influence it. I wish you that the first sexual intercourse in your life will be with the person with whom you will be emotionally connected, take care of protection against sexually transmitted diseases and unplanned parenthood, remember that oral sex is not 100% safe. All the best.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Dominika Ambroziewicz-WnukPsychologist, personal development trainer.
For 20 years she has been working with teenagers, young adults and their carers. Supports people who experience school and relational difficulties, adolescence disorders and teenage parents www.centrum-busola.pl
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