I am asking for advice on my son, who is 24, does not study, does not work and does not want to change his condition. In addition, he stopped meeting with friends. He spends his time sitting in front of the computer (games, internet, watching YouTube videos). For a long time (over a year, if not longer), he has had problems with sleep, or rather the times of sleep and wakefulness (he is awake at night and sleeps during the day). For a year he has been living with his father, who is unable to mobilize him to action, and he does not respond to my requests. I don't know what to do with it anymore, and my husband and I don't want to resort to putting my son's suitcases out the door, because we're afraid of the consequences.
From what you write, I understood that my adult son lives with his father, he does not study or work, he does not have a social life, his main occupation is Internet activity. I hear that you are ready to set sharp boundaries for it, but you are afraid of the consequences.
I think that at the moment it is important for the son to see a psychiatrist who will assess his he alth condition and give a recommendation, such an appointment can also be booked at home. It is worth encouraging your son to seek advice, because the longer this situation lasts, the more difficult it may be for him to leave the house. He or she can take advantage of individual therapy or the offer of support in a day ward (daily therapy lasting several hours) or hospitalization, if necessary. You have to talk honestly, present your position to your son, i.e. if he is sick or has a problem, it's time to start doing something about it. Before such an interview, it is worth establishing a common position, it would be beneficial for you to make an appointment with a psychologist who will prepare and support you for it. If your son does not want to talk to you, you can report the problem to the OPS or mental he alth clinic - look for treatment offers in the community. The beginnings can be difficult, so it would be worthwhile to have your support, but the actions can bring benefits - of course, if the son takes responsibility for himself and the state sets limits for him.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Dominika Ambroziewicz-WnukPsychologist, personal development trainer.
For 20 years she has been working with teenagers, young adults and their carers. He supports people who experience difficultiesschool, relational, adolescence disorders and teenage parents www.centrum-busola.pl
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