Hello. My problem is the lack of orgasm and pleasure from intercourse. My man excites me a lot, but when we make love I don't get any pleasure from it and it means that I can't orgasm. I love intimacy during sex, but I don't feel "that something". Simply put, I feel inside but I don't feel like other women in a situation like this. Apparently, taking birth control pills can cause such effects, but when I took a break for a few months, nothing has changed. Sometimes I even get irritated by the foreplay because I know that the sequel will not be successful. What can I do? Please reply
No orgasm and complete lack of pleasure during sex and full intercourse are two different things. The important thing is whether you are not feeling at all, are your feelings limited, or is it simply unpleasant? Are there any erotic activities that you enjoy? Are you open-minded and trying different ways of love or do you repeat the same pattern over and over again? Have you ever had an orgasm in your life? have you ever masturbated? What were your feelings then? Did you have an orgasm then? Have you had a clitoral orgasm? There are too many possibilities here for a straightforward answer. I think it is probably not a tablet issue. Perhaps it is a problem of focusing too much on things other than just experiencing pleasure, whatever it may be, during the intercourse. You think too much and try to figure out instead of loosening up and taking the wave. Sometimes it happens. There are also women who feel just like that - a bit muffled, a bit muted, without too much excitement, but anyway you can derive a sense of joy and fulfillment from such love. I think you should see a psychologist with a sexologist training or a sexologist - such matters can often be straightened out. But you need some time and the possibility of a longer observation of the phenomenon.
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
He uses his knowledge and experience in the companypsycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
Completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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