I'm 22 years old, I don't have children yet, but I'm considering having them. The problem is that seeing the children of my friends who visit us, I cannot "admire" them, and playing with them bore me. Sometimes I even don't want to play with them, to deal with them. Interestingly, these kids mostly love me. Is it normal? Will this distance change when I have my own child?
Hello! Don't worry about it. You don't have to like all children to be a great mother in the future. You also do not have to think of interesting games while you wait so that children like you and you feel that you spend time with them well. It is also different with their children because the parent grows up with them, sees them every day and knows them as himself. He knows what they need and what they would like to do. Sometimes you will have the will and time to meet these expectations, and sometimes you will be busy with your own affairs and give the children freedom of action - and it will satisfy them. Love, patience, openness. It will be enough and it will come with time.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
More advice from this expert
Verbal aggression of the partner [Expert's advice]No orgasm [Expert Advice]No meaning in life [Expert's tip]Lack of self-confidence? [Expert advice]Can you forgive treason? [Expert advice]Depression after marital infidelity [Expert's tip]How to deal with a child's low self-esteem [Expert's tip]I'm nervous [Expert's tip]Fear of sex [Expert Advice]Fears of a two-year-old [Expert's tip]I have depression? [Expert advice]Masturbation in a 5-year-old girl [Expert's tip]My son doesn't want to study [Expert's tip]Neurosis in the family [Expert's tip]I don't believe in myself and I don't see the point in my life [expert's advice]Aversion to children [Expert's tip]Niejadek [Expert's tip]Not controlling your emotions [Adviceexpert]Husband passed away [Expert's tip]Decline in libido [Expert Advice]Stress - how to relax? [Expert advice]I Avoid Sex With My Husband [Expert Advice]Broken movie after drinking [Expert's tip]Addiction to lying [Expert's tip]Mother and 11-year-old son sleeping together [Expert's tip]I fell in love without reciprocity [Expert's tip]Jealousy [Expert Advice]Jealousy and low self-esteem [Expert's tip]what is wrong and how to help yourself? [Expert advice]How do I act [Expert's Advice]