I am happily married, mother of 2 sons. The current husband is my second. Recently, I have noticed a significant drop in libido, although it wasn't crazy before. I have a younger husband who could make love every day, and me? I guess I'd rather hug and sleep. Unfortunately, I feel it weakly. I would like to add that he is doing everything he can to set me on fire … Unfortunately, my body seems to have lost its tenderness. Maybe these are my hidden complexes? Or maybe the fact that I've never masturbated before and I'm so kind of wooden.
Hello! Periodic drops in libido are perfectly normal. Just like our mood and physiology, the sexual sphere is subject to changes. It is also possible that there has been some fatigue and a general decline in sexual interest. After a while in a relationship, this usually happens. Certainly, my husband will not like it, but he will probably do well, which will be done by temporarily reducing the frequency of close-ups. Or maybe it would be worth sharing your thoughts and desires with him - let him know that you want a different kind of closeness and a different way of spending time with him. Maybe your husband feels that only in this way can he show you how much he loves you and how much he wants you? Make sure about that. If the problem persists, I recommend visiting a sexologist or psychologist experienced in sexology work.
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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