I am 36 years old, I have been married for 15 years, we have three children. Once it is sun, once it is raining - just like in a marriage. We clicked on the net and I did not attach much importance to it, but my husband found a very nice woman to talk to. First they chatted, then they went to GG, then Skype, and finally they met in real life. It goes on for several months, I can't accept it. My husband thinks that I am exaggerating, that he only gives this woman a little pleasure, that he has someone to complain to, who to talk to, that there was no sex and will not be, and I am the most important and he loves me. So why is it causing me pain?
Mrs. Elko!
First of all, I advise you not to fight the feelings you are experiencing. They can be hidden, but not eliminated. Besides, there is probably no way to count on your husband somehow freeing you from these feelings. What you can do is try to use the situation somehow, learn something. If you assume that you are experiencing jealousy, it is worth asking yourself who you are jealous of (whether the husband or the woman you are in contact with) and what behaviors and situations you are jealous of. It often happens that we envy others something that we ourselves do not want or cannot afford. Maybe you will discover what you do not allow yourself to do, and what you may miss. Perhaps it is about what you call communicativeness, i.e. more open and direct communication with loved ones, with people.
Pozdrawiam
Józef Sawicki
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Józef SawickiA specialist in individual therapies with many years of psychotherapeutic experience. In clinical work, she deals with psychotic patients. He is interested in the philosophy of the East. More at www.firma-jaz.pl.
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