How do I deal with my husband's departure? After 19 years, he left me for the younger one. He is 40, she is 22, and I am 39. We have three children. I still love him and wish he would come back, but he doesn't want to. How do I deal with the feeling that he's gone?
Mrs. Anna!
You ask how to deal with your husband's departure. Perhaps this "after" is important. It could mean that you are already accepting this departure somehow, and although you would like him to come back, you won't be wasting too much energy on rebuilding something that has ended. Therefore, I advise you to focus primarily on learning to live and act in a new situation. You will probably not be able to avoid the memories, but it is worth taking care not to get too immersed in reflecting on the past. Moreover, I propose to carefully consider what you lost, whether you really had it, how you can live without it. Perhaps by the way, you will see what you have gained in connection with her husband's departure.
Pozdrawiam
Józef Sawicki
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Józef SawickiA specialist in individual therapies with many years of psychotherapeutic experience. In clinical work, she deals with psychotic patients. He is interested in the philosophy of the East. More at www.firma-jaz.pl.
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