I feel that I have separated myself from people with a wall made of my fears, fears, shame. When I am even among my relatives, it is as if I were apart. I cannot open myself to be here and now. I concentrate on myself, I think about how others perceive me. I have the impression that every meeting with another person is a bloody confrontation. As if I was going into the ring to face my ratings and expectations. There is no freedom in me, but there is constant vigilance that causes tension and stress. It is very tiring and limiting. I am thinking about meditations. Could this be the right direction?
The direction is good and very advisable. It's just that it is good to learn meditation under the supervision of someone who already practices it, or to precede it with a thorough reading. I would also advise you on something more active. Maybe some physical exercises, preferably in a small group, maybe meetings in a club where you can practice yoga - it is a very good introduction to meditation. Any kind of activity will be recommended for you, and the activity in the group even more so. You do not have to enter into any intimate relationships with anyone right away, you just need to be and enjoy the classes. Well, and besides, it is worth reviewing your beliefs that cause your attitude towards life and yourself. Maybe it would be worthwhile first (or in parallel) to have a few conversations with a psychologist who would help you change these beliefs.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
She completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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