I'm 17 and a girl. I have been wondering about my sexual orientation for over a year. I like girls sexually, visually and mentally. I don't know how to put it, but I could be in a relationship with my girlfriend. I like the boys visually too, but the penis disgusts me and I wouldn't be able to have sex with a man. When I also think about a boy touching me, I get shivers. Often, when I stand next to a boy, I have such a fear of him that he may do something to me. Recently, I was convinced that I found my orientation and that I am bisexual, but now I'm starting to doubt it.
You are asking for help, but the e-mail doesn't tell you what your problem is. So what's the point: you like girls, is it "penis disgusting" or fear of guys? If you think that the fear of boys bothers you the most, go to a sexologist with this problem. If you feel like having sex with a girl, make it happen and think about how it was for you. If you are completely lost, talk to the sexologist …
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Bohdan BielskiPsychologist, specialist with 30 years of experience, trainer of psychosocial skills, expert psychologist of the District Court in Warsaw.
Main areas of activity:mediation services, family counseling, care for a person in a crisis situation, manager training.
First of all, it focuses on building good relationships based on understanding and respect. He undertook numerous crisis interventions and took care of people in a deep crisis.
He lectured in forensic psychology at the Faculty of Psychology of SWPS in Warsaw, at the University of Warsaw and the University of Zielona Góra.
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