My husband died in May, in an accident, I am 8 months pregnant, I try to be strong and strong for the little one and myself, but I am afraid that I will break up one day, that I will not be able to cope. I went to a psychologist, but I couldn't trust this person, I had the impression that he didn't understand me. Maybe I was afraid to speak out loud, I don't know. I am asking for help, a hint, what can I do to survive this whole horror …
Necessary, but absolutely necessary, you need to find someone you trust. You must have support, understanding and help. It is necessary in your situation! It could be a sister, friend, aunt, psychologist, nurse … Anyone you can talk to, complain to, get some warmth and contact with other people. Maybe you will also use some internet forum and find such a kindred soul there? When Baby is born, it will probably be a little more difficult, and a little easier - you will probably be tired and sleepy, but you will have someone to hug and take care of. For her, you must have strength and start living anew. But it's such a fresh matter that you can't expect very quick results. It will all continue and hurt, it will probably not pass soon. Don't expect too much of yourself - take time for all the emotions you have inside. This is also why you should go to a psychologist, although, the fact is, without trust and understanding - not much will be of it. I am very sorry for your loss, still in such an important moment in my life. Fate gives us lessons that we do not want at all. However, it is too early for you to approach his choices stoically. For now, without unnecessary questions and analyzes, you have to experience the next hour, the next day … Then the next and the next. Until one of them is better. I greet you strongly.
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Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
She uses her knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pl and at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
Completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor EmmaGonikman.
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