I really want to lose weight for a long time. It seems to me that all the failures in my life come from being too fat. If I was thinner, people would look at me differently, I would have more friends, a partner, I wouldn't be so worried. So I decided to take a little for myself. I followed the 1000 kcal diet for a month, lost 4 kg and was very pleased with myself. But as soon as that happened, I felt a terrible urge to eat. For two days I ate only sweets, I didn't feel like doing anything else, which of course resulted in the fact that I immediately regained the lost kilos. I'm heartbroken. I want to start my diet over, but I don't know if it makes any sense. I feel like my life is on the brink of an abyss. If I never lose weight, never have friends, never find the right man, people will not like me and will make fun of me behind my back. What should I do?
A visit to a specialist is necessary. Your problem is not the kilograms, but the head. Somewhere in your subconscious mind, you may have a deeply impressed conviction that you are not owed anything from life. That's why you have to be the worst one to "have no friends, boyfriend, etc". To lose weight you have to accept the changes in your life. What will it be like when you are slim, have friends, admirers - you will have to face it all, and you never did. This can frighten you and drive you away from success. The psychologist should help you get out of this vicious circle.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Piotr Mosakeducational psychologist and business psychologist, business trainer, psychotherapist, university lecturer.
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