My parents argue a lot, often about nonsense. Is it normal to argue over candlesticks? Just today they started arguing outside and then they came home and dad started screaming (listen to the kids your mother thinks I have a mistress and I'm a tyrant! I'm sick of this! From now on your mother is free, let her do what she wants! You (to my mom) to make you kiss me or hug me or whatever! Always not!) There were a few curses in it, then slam the door and he went somewhere. Sometimes they talk normally, hug each other and all. I am very afraid that they will get divorced. What will happen to me?
Hello! It is actually very unpleasant when two of your closest people are arguing with each other. But unfortunately this is often the case in many marriages. Even in those that seem "perfect" to you, there is a sharp exchange of views, sometimes to screams and unpleasant words. This is where people lose control of their emotions, and their opinion and feelings seem most important to them. Maybe you shouldn't worry too much for now. Maybe they will come to an agreement themselves.
It happens with adults that they will yell, react, but do not think about the real separation at all. Sometimes they even talk about him, blackmailing each other, but it never comes to that. You should talk honestly with your mother - find out what her opinion is. Say that you are afraid that they will get divorced, that maybe they should somehow resolve their conflicts more peacefully, without involving the whole family in them. Mum may not like your "meddling", but she will get a clear signal that the adults in the family have "overwhelmed", that what is happening between them has a great impact on your emotions and life. Maybe it will cool their burning heads a little. Maybe it would be good for your parents to ask for help from a family therapist, because it is probably not too rosy between them. But it's really their trouble and worry, not yours, although you feel bad and sorry.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Tatiana Ostaszewska-MosakHe is a clinical he alth psychologist.
Graduated from the Faculty of Psychology at the University of Warsaw.
She has always been particularly interested in the issue of stress and its impact on human functioning.
He uses his knowledge and experience at psycholog.com.pland at the Fertimedica Fertility Center.
Completed a course in integrative medicine with the world-famous professor Emma Gonikman.
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