Parents drink alcohol, it takes too long. Night screams and fights. Mom doesn't care for herself, for the house. A week before Christmas Eve they drank constantly, I pleaded with my brother, I cried, but that didn't change anything. I don't want to sit at the table with them. I want to go with my brother to my sister on Christmas Eve. And let them live as they wish. Is this a good idea?
Unfortunately, my reply is late. But it's a good idea. You will not change your parents, so save your and your brother's peace as much as possible. You may not know about it, but in each commune / district there is a commission for solving alcohol problems - find it on the Internet or by phone at the commune / district office or city office and report the problem there. In this special situation, you can reserve anonymity or write anonymously, giving the exact address of the parents. The Commission has the right to initiate a referral for drug addiction treatment, and this seems necessary for your parents. There are also addiction treatment clinics - find the nearest one and ask for help. Greetings to you and your brother, you are in a terrible situation, so you have to do something about it.
Remember that our expert's answer is informative and will not replace a visit to the doctor.
Bohdan BielskiPsychologist, specialist with 30 years of experience, trainer of psychosocial skills, expert psychologist of the District Court in Warsaw.
Main areas of activity:mediation services, family counseling, care for a person in a crisis situation, manager training.
First of all, it focuses on building good relationships based on understanding and respect. He undertook numerous crisis interventions and took care of people in a deep crisis.
He lectured in forensic psychology at the Faculty of Psychology of SWPS in Warsaw, at the University of Warsaw and the University of Zielona Góra.
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