I found the following text messages on my wife's phone: "Bathed fresh and fragrant, and you crispy cookie Jaruniu, a feast for my eyes, you have to tire yourself." Second SMS: "Listen, on Sunday morning, I met with J and I told Rafał that I was at your place and we were on our bikes, so hide me if necessary." The third: "Kuwa, if a man has screwed up, there are so many different occasions that the massacre, the one yesterday, which he wrote to me, is a shock." Fourth: "Get yelled at everyone, don't worry, think about the fact that maybe soon you will be someone, and they will be little pawns. Speak up in the morning, of course I'll be waiting longingly. I'm without a husband until the afternoon, so when you will be he wanted to talk, I'm waiting. " I managed to read this much on my wife's phone. I am asking for help, has she betrayed me? There is one more thing - she borrowed a lot of money from her friends, 6,000 zlotys, I don't know when, I don't know for what. Help!
From what I see and read in connection with a possible betrayal of your wife, I cannot objectively and unequivocally state whether the wife has betrayed or not. However, I think the case is quite disturbing and puzzling.
I think you should talk to your wife about what you read on her cell phone as soon as possible. You can't put off things like this or pretend there's no problem. There is no longer any time to think what if, only to talk honestly, face to face. However, please be prepared for the fact that the conversation may be difficult and unpleasant. If it happens, please talk about yourself and your feelings - that is, how you feel in the situation. Please do not blame, shout or blackmail, because this type of conversation does not lead to a resolution of the conflict, but will only make it worse. Regards.
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Ewa GuzowskaEwa Guzowska - educator, addiction therapist, lecturer at GWSH in Gdańsk. A graduate of the Pedagogical Academy in Krakow (social and care pedagogy) and postgraduate studies in therapy and diagnosis of children and adolescents with developmental disorders. She worked as a school educator and addiction therapist in a drug addiction center. He conducts numerous trainings in the field of interpersonal communication.
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