Hello. I'm 21. For several years I have been masturbating regularly, watching pornographic sites, for a long time mainly related to domination. Initially it was male, then female domination, also one involving transsexual women (so-called "shemale"). The latter has a very stimulating effect on me. I felt very bad about it because it is strange for a heterosexual. I explained it to myself as some kind of fetishism. Recently I accidentally stumbled upon a homosexual sex site and to my surprise it also stimulates me. In the real world, I've always liked girls a lot. Never, even in adolescence, have I ever looked back for a boy. When I was thinking about a happy future, I imagined a life with a loving wife, having children. I was 100% convinced of a heterosexual orientation, others seemed very repulsive to me. Now I feel broken, what's the matter with my orientation?
Sexual orientation develops during adolescence and preferences may change during this time. Only when the man reaches maturity and the age of majority, can you try to determine the orientation. Feeling sexual arousal while viewing homosexual and transsexual pornography, or fantasizing about homosexual intercourse, indicate a different orientation than heterosexual, i.e. either homosexual (same-sex attraction) or bisexual (attraction to both sexes). The desire to create a relationship with a woman and to have children does not determine your orientation, but it can only be the need to meet the expectations of society. The determinant of heterosexual orientation would be sexual arousal to women, fantasizing about them, watching heterosexual pornography. It would be worth going to a sexologist to help you define your situation. However, please do not break down. Both homosexual and bisexual orientations are not diseases and current scientific knowledge defines them as normal sexual orientations that are not pathological or abnormal. Sexologists also help homosexuals accept their orientation and learn to live happily with it. Regards
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Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist,psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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