Good morning! I am a young woman, I have had a permanent partner for two years, and for these two years I have not had heterosexual fantasies. I am not able to include well-constructed male-female threads in my works, because the only thing that gives me satisfaction and is interesting are male-male relations. Also my erotic fantasies concern men, I do not appear in them myself, nor does any other woman. The sex of imaginary men is usually based on sadomasochistic practices, with numerous elements of extreme degradation and cruelty. My relationship is successful, I have never had homosexual inclinations myself, I am very concerned about my attraction to the above-mentioned practices and preferences. When I confided in my partner, he decided it was because of my imagination and the specificity of the characters created. I'm a little worried, I don't want to upset the harmony of my relationship …
Hello! Please don't worry, everything is fine. This is the role of sexual fantasies, among other things. They are the safety valve for our sexuality; and most often we do not want what is their content in real life. To make it easier for you to understand, I will give an example: this is the case with, for example, one of the most popular female fantasies about being raped. In real life, 99 percent of women who fantasize about it don't want it !!! And you do not expect the content of your fantasies to be fulfilled, but maybe due to the reaction of your partner you do not necessarily have to tell him or her. Each of us has the right to a little bit of our own secrets, sometimes "honesty to the pain" does more harm than good. Regards
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Beata CiesielskaA specialist sexologist, expert witness. member of the European and Polish Society of Sexual Medicine, Polish Society of Andrology, Association for Good Clinical Research Practice. Admissions at a private office in Łódź (by appointment, tel. 0501 019 578).
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