Hello, I am 18 years old and have been living for 3 years. I have also been in a relationship for 3 years. I am worried about one very embarrassing issue for me - I don't feel anything during intercourse. No excitement, no satisfaction - nothing at all. It has always been like this, but I used to explain it to myself when I was young. My partner does not know about it, because I feel the more stupid because I cheat him, that everything is ok. He tries very hard, so I am sure that it is not a matter of insufficient care or something like that. I trust him immensely, therefore no tension or stress are at stake. We are a successful relationship - we feel comfortable with each other. Is it possible that this is some kind of disease? I really care about the answers because I would like to finally feel what sex and excitement are.
Your difficulty may be due to many reasons. In addition to those mentioned by you, mention should also be made of upbringing in a family where sexuality was taboo or perceived as wrong, sexual harassment, first negative sexual experiences, lack of sexual arousal and the like. Organic causes, such as certain diseases, damage to the nervous system, etc., should also be excluded. A large number of women struggle with this type of difficulty, cheating on a partner and pretending and engaging in sexual activities that do not give any pleasure, certainly do not make him feel you are better off, quite the opposite. It would be worth going to a sexologist to find the cause of the problem and start treatment. Regards
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Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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