I'm 15 and a guy for almost a year. We both had our first time a few weeks ago, only I didn't feel anything. I told him about it moments after intercourse and we thought why. The next time we used a pleasure-enhancing condom, it didn't work. After long trials, efforts and various positions, I started to feel a little. Why is this the case and what can I do?
First of all, you should think about what caresses are pleasant for you and which are not. Each woman feels them differently. One likes a long foreplay, another likes stroking on the breasts, and yet another on the buttocks. a woman learns her sexuality, and it is rare that she feels great pleasure the first time. Together with your partner, you must discover what you like and what you don't. It is important that you tell your partner about this. For example, many women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm and penetration alone is not enough for them. It is also important that you do not focus only on achieving pleasure, because then you will only think about it, there will be tension and a task-oriented attitude towards sex. Please be patient, and slowly get to know your body and your needs together with your partner.
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Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. He has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Society of Sexology, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Court Sexologist Certificate. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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