Hello. I am asking you for help because my boyfriend found out that he is not my first sexual partner but the third one. The boy claims he thinks about it all the time and cannot accept it. We are both very much through it now and we don't know what to do. I am suffering because I regret so much that I have already lost my virtue and cannot offer her boyfriend anymore. We have one more problem, which is my boyfriend can't satisfy me sexually because I haven't had an orgasm yet.
Hello
I am wondering what is really the problem for your boyfriend? Are you his first partner? What is really wrong with having a sex life before? You are an adult and I don't see anything wrong with that. Many women engage in sexual contact with several men before meeting the one and this is perfectly natural. If you are not the kind of person who assumed that you would keep virginity for one man, then your partner should respect that. This is what you are and you have the right to do so. Your partner should not impose your unrealistic expectations on you. I still have a question, has you deceived your partner earlier that she is a virgin? Then his claims could be justified. If not, your partner should be aware of the fact that you are at this age, that you may have had some sexual contacts before him. Every second question, when it comes to the techniques that the boy uses, what parts of your body he stimulates and how he does it, it is worth telling him what you enjoy and what you do not. He will not guess it himself, so it is worth showing him what is pleasant for you. If the problem lies elsewhere, that is, the partner network stimulates you in an appropriate way and yet you do not get your satisfaction, perhaps the problem results from the feeling of guilt towards your partner and your misunderstandings.
Regards Magdalena Bogdaniuk
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Magdalena Krzak (Bogdaniuk)
Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and forensic sexologist. She has a Clinical Sexologist Certificate, awarded by the Polish Sexological Society, after completing full specialization in clinical sexology in Warsaw, and a Sexologist CertificateJudicial. He deals with the treatment of sexual disorders in women and men. He works both individually and with couples. She conducts psychotherapy for victims of sexual violence. He conducts diagnostics and psychological support for transsexual people.
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